A Darker Shade of Love: Some Ideas on Entry Level BDSM

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A resurgence of interest in BDSM, or commonly sexual activities with elements of a power exchange involved, was inevitable with the release of 50 Shades of Grey, an imperfect if endearing example of a relationship with BDSM elements. Unfortunately, it is not a great primer on becoming a BDSM practitioner. Luckily, there are a number of toys that can be put to use without much cost or training!

1. Remote Controlled Vibrators
Being able to give your lover pleasure with the press of a button can put a surprising amount of control in your hands. Whether you want to leave it on until they are on the edge before leaving them begging for more or if you want to surprise them with constant reminders of their place, these come in handy!

  1. Blindfolds and Earmuffs
    Sensory deprivation highlights the remaining bits of information the mind receives. Cutting your submissive off from everything but your touch leaves them only able to think of just that. Blindfolds and earmuffs are two very simple, safe, and easy to use devices that accomplish just that!
  2. Lingerie & Clothing
    While it may seem like a tame suggestion, a carefully selected outfit and the right frame of mind can set the mood for an entire evening. For example, if your girlfriend is normally a conservative dresser, making her wear something mildly more revealing can be a safe power exchange that leaves you both crawling over each other by the end of the day.
    There are, however, some things to avoid or use with more caution than you might think is necessary
  3. Pain & Impact

The typical idea of BDSM to most folks is one person walloping on the other, at least for the short answer. In truth, you can have enjoyable BDSM experiences without intending to inflict any pain at all. You can do so, but extreme caution and the aid of an experienced practitioner are highly recommended.

  1. Rope
    A faulty bit of rope-work can leave someone with nerve damage, loss of limbs, and even death. Even if you read it in a book, you should not do rope bondage without some prior instruction. If you absolutely must disregard the warning, keep a sharp object nearby that is capable of quickly cutting the type of rope you are using.
  2. Gags
    A lot of BDSM will necessitate constant communication between you and the others involved. If a submissive is gagged and something begins to go wrong, it can be difficult to pass on a safe word or other cry for help with a gag in place. A gag by itself or a gag added after you are more familiar with the partner is fine, but exercise caution.

    Keep Learning!
    With BDSM, there is always something else to learn. No one introductory list is going to cover all the things you should try and might like, and they certainly will not tell you of all the safety concerns. Seek out additional sources of information and attempt to find people you can learn from. Good luck, and have fun! Remember to check out the full range of adult toys for Sextoyshop.us

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